via The Shelbyville Times-Gazette
Tennessee woman adopts 7-year-old boy. Boy has issues because he’s been in a Russian orphanage his whole life. Woman sends him back. The following is from the note she clipped to him:
“This child is mentally unstable. He is violent and has severe psychopathic issues,” the letter said. “I was lied to and misled by the Russian Orphanage workers and director regarding his mental stability and other issues. …
That’s right. She pinned a note to his jacket and put him on a plane to Moscow. I recently took more care returning a satellite receiver. The little boy isn’t the only one with issues. She may have very valid grievances with the adoption process, but her solution was soulless and crazy.
And get a load o’ this. According to the grandmother, Nancy Hansen, who put the child on the plane, this doesn’t qualify as child abandonment because, “a stewardess was watching the boy on the flight and a reputable person picked him up in Russia.” That’s right, Mommy Dearest paid an unidentified man $200 to pick the child up and take him to the Russian Education and Science Ministry. Well, from what we know of international human trafficking perhaps we should be glad she didn’t just sell him to some random russian guy.
To listen to the mother’s side… well, the side she was sharing before her family circled the wagons, you’d think she just went to Russia, got a kid and was left to her own devices. Not so much. Surprise, a lot of kids from russian orphanages have issues. Mainly because they’ve been living in russian orphanages, and arriving at the orphanage was probably when things started looking up. That’s why international adoption agencies conduct follow-up visits and address adjustment problems. Via The Daily Caller,
A statement released by Adoption Assistance, Inc. said the child appeared to be adjusting and the mother was enthusiastic during a visit by a social worker in January. But by late March, the agency has been unable to get in touch with her.
“Our agency worked diligently to locate the mother, including e-mails and calls to the client’s mother, with no success,” the statement said. …The agency said that part of their services includes providing families with education on issues like attachment, bonding, behavioral issues and behaviors associated with institutionalized children.
“If this mother would have contacted us when the adjustment problems began, we would have worked with her on the issues or arranged alternative placement,” the agency said.
Our family has some friends who adopted a little girl with extensive, undisclosed health problems. They also, surprisingly, had a biological child a couple of years later. While their adopted daughter’s problems have been a huge hardship, they wonder what would have become of their beloved daughter if they would have known or if they would have been able to conceive sooner. Torry Hansen didn’t want to give a child a home (a child she had to have known was likely very damaged), she wanted a needy child to do something for her.
The media keeps vigil outside the Hansen home. Lights occasionally go on and off, but “no one’s home”. Invitations for interviews left on the door have disappeared, but a fruit basket from People magazine remains. Law enforcement is frustrated. The State Department says no federal law was broken, so this falls back onto the sheriff’s department. They’re waiting on the D.A. to file charges, if they can even find charges to file, to get a warrant. Hansen refuses to talk to law enforcement until charges are filed. That may be the smartest thing she’s done yet.
Meanwhile (via the Daily Mail
), Russia threatens to suspend all child adoptions to U.S. families, leaving hundreds of ongoing adoptions in limbo. That’s hundreds of other children like this one, who’ve gone through God knows what on their journey to orphandom, then live yet another horror of life in a nightmarish orphanage, desperate that someone will step up to the challenge of loving a damaged child, hopefully them