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A Beautiful Reminder to Embrace Living

February 26, 2010

As some may know, Andrew Koenig, whom I remember from his role on Growing Pains, was found dead in Vancouver on Thursday. He had taken his own life. His father, actor Walter Koenig, whom most will know from his role as Chekhov on Star Trek, had to face the cameras in a time of unbearable grief.  He asked that his family be given peace to mourn.

Doctor Zero, over at Hot Air, paid tribute to that life lost — and reached out to all who may be contemplating the same course of action. I hope you will take this as I did; not as something sad and mournful, but as something truly hopeful (although I do suggest having tissues handy. And not just the ladies.)  A reminder to all that every life has meaning; every soul has a purpose. That in this world, you need never feel alone. You need never see only bleakness and despair. Open your eyes and truly see. Open your heart and truly listen. It’s there — real meaning — if you seek it and don’t give up.

An excerpt from Doc Zero:

If your walk takes you past sunset, watch the cars rolling into the driveways of apartments and houses. If you walk from night into morning, watch the people reluctantly leaving their homes, to provide for their families. Those people are not wasting their lives, but fulfilling them. They return home to enjoy their reward, and renew their inspiration. Every day, they write new pages in the human story. None of us will see the end of that tale… but I know you share my appetite to read another chapter, and then one more after that. You may have convinced yourself to ignore it, but it’s still there. [snip]

You may be afraid to face the years ahead. You’re not the only one, and if you extinguish the light of your faith and wisdom, you consign others to darkness. You might see death by your own hand as the end of unbearable pain… but I ask you to think about Walter Koenig, facing a wall of cameras with quiet grace in the hours after finding his son’s body, and understand that it’s only the beginning of agony.

You might have decided your fellow men are rotten to the core, and you’re weary of their company. Listen to the music of Mozart, or look upon the work of Michelangelo, and consider the argument of those who profoundly disagree. Maybe part of your problem is that you’ve been listening to the wrong music, or looking at the wrong pictures. Dark waters are easy to drown in. The judgment of the human race will not lack witnesses for the defense, and they will make their case to you, if you give them a chance.

Now, take the last few steps back to your home, and set aside one sorrow or terror with every footfall, until your mind is clear. If you’re thinking of incinerating the remaining years of your life, surely you can spare a few minutes for quiet reflection, and hear this prayer from the living world:

Please don’t leave us. We need you.

I would have excerpted the entire piece; it’s beautiful beyond words. Please, read the whole thing here.

5 Comments leave one →
  1. Dell permalink
    February 27, 2010 12:08 am

    Nice of you to pick up on Doc’s most recent post, Lori. An incredible piece of writing and if you read it carefully, you’ll understand the man speaks from experience. Doc has his own web blog (your dot org link above) for those who relish some mighty savvy communication skills. The man is simply a great writer!

    PS: My first visit here…..and I wike.

    • Lori Ziganto permalink*
      February 27, 2010 3:07 am

      Thank you, Dell. And, yes, Doc is an amazingly beautiful writer. I admire him greatly.

  2. February 27, 2010 3:05 am

    Thanks for linking to this. Found you on hot air and also follow you on Twitter. You are cool as hell. First visit to your blog and I hope to meet you in person at an event one day. I was on blogger’s row at CPAC and if you were, too, sorry I missed you.

    Be well and thanks for helping educate people about what I suffer from, as do many others.


    • Lori Ziganto permalink*
      February 27, 2010 3:09 am

      Hi Katy! Thank you!

      I wasn’t able to make it to CPAC this year; a bit too spendy for me right now. I hope to make it next year.

      Be well, Katy. I’m very glad to iMeet you 🙂


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